Support...

When I woke in the middle of the night to talk with you at work, you’d just had a conversation with a close friend, who’d offered compassion and encouragement about the paths you’re currently taking. You told me that you’d been so happy for all the love and support you’d gotten from everyone with whom you’d been sharing your story and struggles. In truth, I am, too. At the best of times, knowing that you have people around you whom you can trust, lean on, and who will just as readily share in your sorrow as your joy is vital. In times like these, where things are so often difficult and chaotic, even when we’re headed in a great direction, it’s even more so.

I know, because you’ve told me, that, in the past, you’ve felt as though you couldn’t always reach out to those in your world who are now offering their shoulders to lean on and hands to help out, and I know a large part of that was the complicated dynamics of your previous relationship. I never want you to fall back into that pattern with me, so let me commit this to the page and make it a permanent reminder. 

I believe that we are better when we have those outside of us to hold us accountable, to point out when they see things we may be missing, and who trust in us enough to confide those things to us. I encourage you to listen to those close to you and, if you feel like it’s important, especially if it’s about me or us, to bring back to me so that we can do what we do and work it out to try and find a solution. I trust those who’ve known you longer than I have, or who just know you differently. 

I love that we enjoy being together pretty much all the time, and that our relationship is so solid and open by default, but I think part of maintaining that is making sure we don’t get lost in just us, too. You’re amazing, and I love that other people see that in you, too. Let them, my sweet girl. You deserve every ounce of love and support they’re willing to give you. I love you, fiercely and dearly.