Taking care...

Today, as you were getting ready to nap and setting your alarm, I reminded you to take off your earrings. It was a small thing, and probably something which you’d likely have either remembered once you’d laid down, or suffered little for not having done so. Inconsequential as it may have been, though, it’s indicative of a larger aspect of our relationship which I think is incredibly important. 

In all relationships, or the healthy ones, at least, the partners look after one another, in the big ways, definitely, but also in the tiny, everyday ways, as well. We intertwine our lives so much so that it makes sense that we’d notice when the other needed something, even if that need wasn't yet apparent to them. We mind things like eating on time, or drinking enough. We fold clothes or prepare the bed for sleep. None of these things, on their own, is vital, but added all together, they become something much more, and create a sense of closeness and deep safety. 

As well, when we care for one another, I think we’re more intimately connected and conscious in the relationship. That can keep us from falling into the sort of routines that so often slowly wear away at the soul of a couple. We’re able to be more engaged and present, to find opportunities to not only be of service, but to express gratitude and appreciation for the ways that we make one another’s lives easier and better. It’s pretty great, really, and I’m so glad we’re like this. I love you, my sweet girl, with everything I am.