Why we work...

The last 24 hours have been an excellent example of what makes us work so well together. We spent a phone call while you ran talking through the practicalities of how to keep moving our relationship forward towards what we want. Then, in the middle of the night, we spent a couple of hours offering one another emotional support as we sorted through the feelings that are coming up in our shared and separate grieving processes, selflessly and effortlessly, as seems to always be the case with us. Then, once the sadness had passed, we spent the rest of the night and day planning a trip to Niagara Falls for your birthday. We are dreamers, and planners, and doers. I say it often. I love that about us. 

We also did a great deal of research about resources for the kids here in Saratoga Springs. It seems as though, no matter what they want to learn to do, there’s some way for them to do it here. It made me feel good, and it always does, when you include me in their world, to any degree. And you do, my love, often. I’m not sure if it’s because you want me to know them, because they bring you such joy, or because there is some part of you that sees the dad in me and wants not only to give me that, but to have that, yourself. Probably all of them. But that’s another thing we did just right these last two days. 

I know that it’s hard right now, so hard, for both of us, being apart, especially given that we know with such certainty where we’re going to end up eventually. But I think this makes it easier, sharing with one another, loving and making the most of the time we’re apart. I wouldn’t want to do this life without you, my sweet girl. I love you, with all my heart and soul, now and always.